A safe food is a food that a person can reliably eat — especially during hard moments. It has the right texture, taste, smell, and predictability. It doesn’t ask anything unexpected of you. Safe foods are not about preference or being picky. They are about access. For many autistic and disabled people, safe foods are how eating becomes possible at all.
Safe foods often stay the same across many meals and years. That consistency is the point. See also: Samefood and Food Aversion — Safe Foods.
For most of my life, food hasn’t been about preference as much as it’s been about predictability.
Steph Baldassarre, Safe Foods are Access, not Failure, Autistic Self Advocacy Network
What makes a certain food safe? It depends. If a particular brand I like changes their recipe and I don’t like it, I’m not buying from them anymore. I need predictability. If it’s not the same or close to it, I can’t do it. The texture, the flavor, all of it needs to be just the way I like it.
Steph Baldassarre, Safe Foods are Access, not Failure, Autistic Self Advocacy Network
Unfortunately, this is hardly ever understood as a sensory need. My eating habits are often treated as a failure to comply with health.
Steph Baldassarre, Safe Foods are Access, not Failure, Autistic Self Advocacy Network
Access to safe foods is a disability issue, and a bodily autonomy issue. They’re often the most reliable way for disabled people to be able to eat.
Steph Baldassarre, Safe Foods are Access, not Failure, Autistic Self Advocacy Network
These foods are not boring to me. They are the reason I can sit at a table at all.
Kari Burroughs Kraakevik, Safe Foods, Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
It wasn’t just that I was picky, though that was true. It was that when I was already in sensory overload, certain foods weren’t safe.
Kari Burroughs Kraakevik, Safe Foods, Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
My body deciding that not eating was safer than eating the wrong thing. Safer than trying something new. Hunger didn’t feel like hunger anymore. It felt like static. Something to wait out. Something preferable to the overwhelm of a plate I couldn’t navigate.
Kari Burroughs Kraakevik, Safe Foods, Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
The more I knew, the safer I felt. I could map the meal before I had to navigate it. Nothing appeared without context. I could anticipate what was coming next. There were no hidden textures, no unexpected flavors buried under something suspicious. I didn’t have to brace myself between bites. I could stay. And staying meant I could eat.
Kari Burroughs Kraakevik, Safe Foods, Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
Most people have a version of this, even if they don’t name it that way. The meal they order when they’re too tired to decide. The food they eat when they’re sick. The thing that doesn’t ask anything of them. For some of us, that instinct becomes a system. More structured. Less flexible. Harder to ignore. But it isn’t foreign. It’s the same need, just louder.
Kari Burroughs Kraakevik, Safe Foods, Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
For me, cooking is not a performance or a creative outlet. It is a way back into my body. It is how I make food possible. It is how I make eating possible.
Kari Burroughs Kraakevik, Safe Foods, Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
Keeping “safe foods” on hand ensures that, if your child rejects what you offer, you have a better shot at ensuring they’re still getting the calories and nutrients they need. The saying is true: Fed really is best.
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