Let’s make it personal.
You have to know the person, and that person has to believe in you.
Here are related quotes on autistic ways of developing trust:
Autists conceptualise the world in terms of trusted relationships with unique people…
…many autistic children reported flourishing at home both educationally and personally. For these children and families, we identified three key ingredients essential to this flourishing, including: (i) the importance of connected, trusting relationships (‘people’); (ii) the sensory and social safety of home (‘place’); and (iii) the flexibility to pace and structure learning to suit the individual child (‘time’).
The Autistic way of developing trust is based on experienced domain-specific competence. Autistic people:
(when young) assume everyone is telling the truth;
(when older) can become very cynical;
can be fooled by people who appear to be logical but who have no scruples fabricating evidence;
are slow in learning the cultural significance of social cues, and can’t reliably read social cues in an environment of sensory overload.
A common Autistic way of making friends
To construct trusted relationships and friendships, Autistic people apply an explicit goal oriented approach:
- Search for people with shared interests, usually online
- Confirm a shared area of interest
- Start having fun by openly sharing knowledge, personal experiences, and related gaps of knowledge and questions
- Explore what can be achieved with joint capabilities and capacities
- Embark on significant joint projects (examples) to have more fun
Mutual trust. Connected, trusting relationships. That’s how I operate. I default to trust. That need and tendency is wired in deeply.
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Thank you for your patient timing
I’m in debt to you forever
Grateful to have with you grown
Every city really feels like a home
Live this truth so I hope it shows
Love you all it’s important to know4 People by Solillaquists of Sound