Listen to the individual, work together, and follow expert advice to support autistic people questioning their gender.
Gender nonconformity, dysphoria, and fluidity are oft discussed in neurodiversity communities. Neurodivergent people are more likely than the general population to be gender non-conforming. “Autistic people are more likely to be nonheterosexual and noncisgender, with many identifying as bisexual, transgender, or nonbinary.” Many prominent autistic self-advocates identify as intersex, non-binary, asexual, aromantic, transgender, and genderqueer.
People who do not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth are three to six times as likely to be autistic as cisgender people are, according to the largest study yet to examine the connection1. Gender-diverse people are also more likely to report autism traits and to suspect they have undiagnosed autism.
“All these findings across different datasets tend to tell a similar story,” says study investigator Varun Warrier, research associate at the University of Cambridge in the United Kingdom.Largest study to date confirms overlap between autism and gender diversity
We like to think of neurodiversity as a social model umbrella that, when opened to its broadest, includes Queer people.
It’s a double rainbow all the way.
Here comes the sun It's shining right through you On everyone You came in so hot You broke the ice up Feeling so strong I got to shine on Through all the black and blue I got it from you It hits so hard with all the colors that there are I want to know you I want to see the sound You're like a rainbow But not the same though
I got to shine on Through all the black and blue I got it from you It hits so hard with all the colors that there are Here comes the sun It's shining right through you On everyone It hits so hard with all the colors that there are You hit so hard with all the colors that there are --Rainbow Shiner by Ex Hex
Genderpunk: a colloquial term for culture and resistance against gendernormativity; an identity that in and of itself is a resistance against gender norms, homophobia and transphobia, oppression and societal status.
Your gender has nothing to do with your eligibility to be genderpunk. If you agree with the mindset, no matter how you identify, you can be a part of the movement.Have A Gay Day : What is ‘Genderpunk’?
Here comes Dick, he's wearing a skirt Here comes Jane, y'know she's sporting a chain Same hair, revolution Same build, evolution Tomorrow who's gonna fuss? And they love each other so Androgynous Closer than you know, love each other so Androgynous
Don't get him wrong and don't get him mad He might be a father, but he sure ain't a dad And she don't need advice that's sent at her She's happy with the way she looks, she's happy with her gender And they love each other so Androgynous Closer than you know, love each other so Androgynous
Mirror image, see no damage See no evil at all Kewpie dolls and urine stalls will be laughed at The way you're laughed at now Now, something meets Boy, and something meets Girl They both look the same, they're overjoyed in this world Same hair, revolution Unisex, evolution Tomorrow who's gonna fuss --Androgynous by The Replacements
Content Note: ableism, behaviorism, ABA, conversion therapy, homophobia, transphobia, abuse, dysphoria, suicide
Queer and Neurodivergent Liberation Are Entwined
Autistic and queer folks share some dark history—and some bad actors. Chapter 7 of NeuroTribes, Fighting the Monster, shares the legacy of Ole Ivar Lovaas, the twisted father of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) and conversion therapy. He applied his abusive, torturous techniques to autistic kids and “sissy boys” to make them “indistinguishable from their peers”. He had little regard for their humanity—they were engineering projects.
Silberman, Steve (2015-08-25). NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (p. 285). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
A brief thread about why the fates of LGBTQ+ and #ActuallyAutistic people are intertwined (to say nothing of LGBTQ+ autistic people). This right here is Ole Ivar Lovaas, the father of modern-day Applied Behavioral Analysis.
For the first week of #Pride2022: a brief thread about why the fates of LGBTQ+ and #ActuallyAutistic people are intertwined (to say nothing of LGBTQ+ autistic people). This right here is Ole Ivar Lovaas, the father of modern-day Applied Behavioral Analysis. 1/
Lovaas ran a clinic at UCLA, where autistic children were slapped, administered shock therapy. LIFE Magazine profiled his practices in 1965, showing how one girl was taken to a “shock room” when she made little progress.
When children behaved well, they were given food and affection. Children were initially not given regular meals and only spoonfuls of food at first.
Lovaas had an extremely low opinion of his autistic patients. In a 1974 interview, he demeaned autistic people stimming (which we now know is a means of soothing). He also called them “little monsters.”
But Lovaas’s practice did not just end when it came to autistic children. As @stevesilberman wrote in his book #NeuroTribes, he also assisted with UCLA’s Feminine Boy Project, which sought to cure boys of atypical sexuality, including homosexuality.
Lovaas and Rekers’ practices bore stunning similarities to Lovaas’s practices on autistic children. Poor Kirk’s parents were instructed to use poker chips. Blue poker chips were used as a reward to get candy while red chips meant he would be spanked.
The red poker chips were given when he displayed feminine behavior. The whippings were so unbearable that Kirk’s brother would hide the red chips. Kirk later joined the US Armed forced before he later died from suicide.
All the while, Rekers and Lovaas’s research was used to show that conversion therapy worked. Rekers would co-found the Family Research Council, which opposes LGBTQ+ rights. More on Kirk’s tragic end here.
People might wonder why I, a cisgender heterosexual from the suburbs of Southern California, included queer history in a book about autism. THIS is why. The same people who want to stop queer kids from being themselves are the same ones who want to stop me from flapping my hands
Conversely, when I first moved to Washington, the gay community openly embraced me and getting to know gay people helped me shed my own homophobia AND my internalized ableism. It’s why transphobia also bugs me so much.Eric Michael Garcia on Twitter
Protecting queer kids protects also neurodivergent kids—and vice versa. The fight is for inclusion and acceptance—for all operating systems, for all of our different ways of being human. Supporting our kids means supporting all of their possibilities and expressions.
Neuronormativity is pervasive, and if you think that it only effects neurodivergent people you are wrong. Both BIPOC and 2SLGBTQIA+ communities have fallen foul of the belief that there is a standard of neurology we should all achieve. It was not so long ago that being gay or transgender was listed in the DSM as a psychiatric disorder.
Autistic people naturally stand queer neuronormative standards. In this sense, queer is a verb. It is the subversion of societal expectation. Through our rejection of neuronormativity, we create space to explore our gender and sexuality (or lack thereof) unencumbered by the chains of bigoted standards of being.
When we begin to dismantle neuronormativity, we also begin to dismantle heteronormativity. Our experience of ourselves and attraction (or lack of attraction) to others is built upon the experiences we have of our environment. Experiences that we have through the lens of being Autistic. You can not separate autism from our queerness any more than you can separate a person from their brain. They are part of us, and without them, we would be someone different.The link between autism and Queerness – Emergent Divergence
But I don't need a cure for me I don't need it No, I don't need a cure for me I don't need it No, I don't need a cure for me I don't need it I don't need it Please, no cure for me Please, no cure for me --Cure for Me by AURORA
“Cure for Me” is very much inspired by conversion therapy.
I just wanted to make an anthem for people to sing along with that they know they don’t need a cure.
It doesn’t take much before the world tells you that you’re different, and that you should change yourself to be the same as everybody else, which is very sad.AURORA “Cure For Me” Official Lyrics & Meaning | Verified
She is our miscreant She is our detox She is our dagger in the dark She is the knot mess She is the undressed She is the boy borne in my heart While you sit on the fence I will burn in hell
I think in the context of gender and being trans, autonomy is heavily connected to what we do or don’t do with our bodies, because a lot of people don’t want to, or don’t care to, transition medically. Either because they’re nonbinary and they’re comfortable with their bodies, or even if they are binary, they don’t have physical dysphoria.
It’s so different for everybody. It’s getting to do what we want with our bodies, how we want to do it, at the pace that—hopefully—we get to set without other people putting judgment on that, and still being respected.Trust Kids! Stories on Youth Autonomy and Confronting Adult Supremacy
Research that aimed to preserve autistic perspectives (Kourti & MacLeod, 2019) found that autistic perceptions of gender identity are far more diverse, and put interests, rather than gender identity, at the core of autistic people’s identity perception. Furthermore, autistic people often state repeatedly in their accounts how confusing and emotionally taxing ‘doing gender’ is for them, explaining why they may explicitly reject being confined to traditional and binary gender norms (Davidson & Tamas, 2016).Working with Autistic Transgender and Non-Binary People
Children on the autism spectrum are more than seven times more likely to show signs of gender variance, according to a study led by New York University. The study, published last month in Transgender Health, recruited the parents of 492 autistic children ages six to 18. When the researchers asked these parents whether their children often “wish to be the opposite sex,” a little over five percent of participants said yes, compared to less than one percent of the general population. Bolstering these findings is the fact that a previous study from the Children’s National Medical Center in 2014 found almost the exact same results. The NYU study found that 5.1 percent of children on the autism spectrum showed signs of gender variance. The 2014 study put that number down at 5.4 percent.
Both studies show that counselors working with autistic children should ask about their gender identity. Being both autistic and gender non-conforming, some children face a double-challenge in responding to society’s biases.
Over the past decade, people with gender dysphoria have developed new ways of expressing their sense of self. Whereas many once identified as transsexual or transgender, some now call themselves ‘genderqueer’ or ‘non-binary.’ Rates of autism and autism traits appear to be higher in those identifying as genderqueer. Like Ollie, these people generally say they don’t feel fully masculine or feminine, and explicitly reject the notion of two mutually exclusive genders. The word ‘trans’ is often used to encompass all of these identities and the phrase ‘affirmed gender’ to convey a person’s sense of self.
Inspired by the Dutch study, Strang and his colleagues approached prevalence from another angle. Instead of measuring the incidence of autism among gender-dysphoric children and adolescents, they assessed gender variance — defined as a child “wishing to be the other sex” — in children with autism. “We found rates that were 7.5 times higher than expected,” Strang says.
Others agree with these insights. A 2015 study by researchers from Boston Children’s Hospital reported that 23.1 percent of young people presenting with gender dysphoria at a gender clinic there had possible, likely or very likely Asperger syndrome, as measured by the Asperger Syndrome Diagnostic Scale, even though few had an existing diagnosis. Based on these findings, the researchers recommend routine autism screening at gender clinics.
Gender norms should not be imposed on people with autism to make the rest of the world more comfortable. Why teach girls with autism how to apply makeup, dress in a feminine manner and shop? Therapists, educators and parents only consider these to be important goals because our society imposes strict gender norms.
“Having autism is a burden; a lot of things in the world change when you have autism,” says Strang. “But adding transgenderism, or maybe some of them aren’t transgender but they are just exploring gender, that is complicated in itself.”
Shumer says it is important that parents and medical providers be aware of the increased possibility for co-occurrence of autism and gender variance. If treating patients for one condition, they should screen for the other and be prepared to treat it. “There also may be implications for how to provide informed consent for things like hormonal interventions,” he adds.
Lovaas’s crusade to “normalize” deviance was not limited to autistic children. In the 1970s, he lent his expertise to a series of experiments called the Feminine Boy Project, the brainchild of UCLA psychologist Richard Green. After interviewing one hundred men and women who applied for gender reassignment surgery, Green became interested in tracing the roots of sexual identity back to childhood. He teamed up with Lovaas to see if operant conditioning could be employed as an early intervention in cases of gender confusion to prevent the need for reassignment surgery in the future. The project’s most celebrated success story was Kirk Andrew Murphy, enrolled at UCLA by his parents at age five. Bright and precocious, Kirk would ask for his favorite snacks by their brand names at the supermarket. But after seeing Green interviewed on TV about “sissy-boy syndrome”— his term for early-onset gender dysphoria— Kirk’s parents became concerned that he was exhibiting behavior that was inappropriate for a little boy. One day, his father caught him posing in the kitchen in a long T-shirt and saying, “Isn’t my dress pretty?” Children with this syndrome, Green claimed, often grew up to become transsexual or homosexual. Lovaas assigned a young graduate student named George Rekers to become Kirk’s behavioral therapist.Silberman, Steve (2015-08-25). NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (pp. 319-320). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
In a case report that would go on to become a classic in undergraduate psychology courses, Rekers and Lovaas wrote that Kirk (called “Kraig”) possessed “a remarkable ability to mimic all the subtle feminine behaviors of an adult woman.” They framed his “offer to ‘help mommy’ by carrying her purse” as an example of the boy’s devious manipulation of his mother to “satisfy his feminine interests.” Their descriptions of the little boy’s behavior, compared with the transcripts of Green’s intake interviews with Kirk’s parents, were decidedly more extreme, as if the boy were clearly a world-class drag queen in the making at age five. They claimed that he had an elaborate “history of cross-dressing” that included plundering his grandmother’s makeup kit for cosmetics and “swishing around the home and clinic, fully dressed as a woman with a long dress, wig, nail polish, high screechy voice, [and] slovenly seductive eyes.” (In family photographs, Kirk more resembles a Mouseketeer.)Silberman, Steve (2015-08-25). NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (pp. 319-320). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
To nip the little boy’s inappropriate behavior in the bud, they devised a program of total immersion based on Lovaas’s work on autism. This time, instead of hand-flapping, gaze aversion, and echolalia, the behaviors targeted for extinction included the “limp wrist,” the submissively yielding “hand clasp,” the notorious “swishy gait,” the girlish “hyperextension” of the limbs in moments of exuberance, and prissy declarations like “goodness gracious” and “oh, dear me.” At home, Kirk’s “masculine” behaviors were rewarded with blue chips that could be redeemed for candy and other treats, while his “feminine” behaviors were punished with red chips that were subtracted from the total. In interviews conducted by blogger Jim Burroway, who undertook a thorough investigation of the case in 2011, Kirk’s brother, Mark, recalled their father punishing the boy— with Rekers’s approval— by converting each red chip into a “swat.” Mark broke down sobbing as he confessed to hiding red chips from his brother’s pile so that Kirk wouldn’t have to endure the abuse.
And research supports the idea that a large swath of genderqueer people are also autistic. In 2014, a survey in the Archives of Sexual Behavior showed that “gender variance was 7.59 times more common in participants with ASD than in a large non-referred comparison group.” Gender variance is defined as “an umbrella term used to describe gender identity, expression, or behavior that falls outside of culturally defined norms associated with a specific gender,” according to Pediatric Annals. Another article published in LGBT Health in 2019 found that children who were diagnosed as autistic were four times more likely to experience gender dysphoria.We’re Not Broken: Changing the Autism Conversation
Price, Devon. Unmasking Autism (p. 51 – 53). Harmony/Rodale. Kindle Edition.
If I could have chosen, I would have been born a woman My mother once told me she would have named me Laura I would grow up to be strong and beautiful like her One day, I’d find an honest man to make my husband We would have two children, build our home on the Gulf of Mexico
Our family would spend hot summer days at the beach together The sun would kiss our skin as we played in the sand and water We would know we loved each other without having to say it At night, we would sleep with the windows of our house left open Letting the cool ocean air soothe the sunburned shoulders of our children
Our Dual Identities Are Not Competing; They Are Complementary
Don’t use this information to “blame” trans identity on autism. Don’t threaten identity or reduce agency.
To blame trans identities on autism is to say that autistic people cannot understand or be aware of their own gender. If an autistic person cannot know they are trans, how can they know they aren’t? How can they know anything about themselves?
When a person’s gender is doubted because they are autistic, this paves the way for removing autistic people’s agency in all kinds of other ways. If we can’t know this central aspect of our identity, we surely can’t know how we feel, what we like, or who we are. In short, it implies that we are not truly people, and that our existence, experiences, and identities are for other people to define. This is just another facet of dehumanising autistic people, and gender is certainly not the only area in which this happens.
In itself, the very urge to find a ‘reason’ that someone is transgender is a result of believing that being transgender is a problem, and that it would always be better not to be. The fact that clinicians like Zucker are focused on why someone is transgender, instead of focusing on what kind of help they need and how to best provide it, demonstrates clearly the belief that it is fundamentally bad to be transgender. Not only that, but the belief that it’s even theoretically possible for anyone besides the individual in question to know what someone’s gender is. That’s just not how gender works! No-one really understand what gender is, or what it means, or where it comes from. The only thing we know for sure is that it’s internal, subjective, and personal. You can’t prove or test someone else’s gender any more than you can prove or test their favourite colour. The idea that it can be tested is constantly used to invalidate trans people. Our genders are doubted or disbelieved if we fail to adequately ‘prove’ ourselves to everyone else – if we express too many or too few gender stereotypes, if we are too old or too young, if we claim to be nonbinary or our description of our identity is too complicated or confusing.
The best option is to allow someone to explore their feelings, support them in gaining self-understanding, and accept their identity whatever it turns out to be. It is not complicated, and it’s only scary if you are still holding onto the belief that being either autistic or transgender – or, perish the thought, both – is a terrible thing to be. Which it’s not. I am, along with countless others like me, living proof of that.Blaming trans identities on autism hurts everyone | autisticality
“Too frequently, autistic people are denied basic rights to make decisions about our own bodies and health care, including when it comes to expressing our gender identity,” said Sam Crane, Legal Policy Director for the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network. “Whether we’re transgender or not, autistic people’s gender identities are as real as anyone else’s and should be respected and supported, not dismissed based on baseless stereotypes.”Autistic Self-Advocacy Network, LGBT Groups Release Statement on Needs of Trans Autistic People | Autistic Self Advocacy Network
I am an AAC user. I am also queer and trans. I knew that before I ever had the words to say so. I knew that before I had ever heard the words queer or trans. I knew that before I had effective means of communicating such concepts with anyone around me. I was still queer and I was still trans.
We talk about presumption of competence. We talk about how part of presuming competence is recognizing that people know themselves best. We talk about how presuming competence is important for AAC users, for people who have never been presented with a communication system that works for them, and for all people with communication disabilities. Why doesn’t presumption of competence get applied to gender as well?
Part of presuming my competence includes presuming I know my own gender. I am trans. If you do not believe me, you are saying I am incapable of knowing myself well enough to know my own gender, something inherently personal.
Part of presuming my competence includes believing that when I was a child who did not know the word trans — and as such didn’t have any method of telling anyone I was trans — I still knew myself. It means believing that child who had to actively think where to go when told we were splitting into “girls” and “boys” groups. Splitting into groups this way did not make sense to me, because I did not belong in either. Part of presuming my competence includes believing that my nonbinary reality was true, despite not having a way to explain or express it.What Does Gender Have To Do with Presuming Competence? | CommunicationFIRST
Few people listen to autistic transgender people or ask them their reasons for transitioning. Their dual identities are not competing; they are complementary. The acceptance of each affords transgender autistic people new freedoms they otherwise would not have. A lot of the bias against this population is also rooted in the idea that autistic people cannot understand what is in their own best interests. This pernicious ableism compounded with transphobia implies that autistic people cannot understand their own gender identity. Still, autistic people know what they want and need. They are the ones who know best about their identities and how to ensure that their bodies line up with what is in their minds. The only thing they need from other people is affirmation and support.We’re Not Broken: Changing the Autism Conversation
- Focus: Autism Spectrum Disorders: Gender Identity and Autism Spectrum Disorders
- Increased gender variance in autism spectrum disorders and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. – PubMed – NCBI
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- Autism Spectrum Disorders in Gender Dysphoric Children and Adolescents
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- Gender Variance Among Youth with Autism Spectrum Disorders: A Retrospective Chart Review
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- Autism Spectrum Disorders in Gender Dysphoric Children and Adolescents | SpringerLink
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- Brief Report: Autistic Features in Children and Adolescents with Gender Dysphoria. – PubMed – NCBI
- What Category Best Fits: Understanding Transgender Identity in a Survey of Autistic Individuals | Autism in Adulthood
- “My whole life has been a process of finding labels that fit”: A Thematic Analysis of Autistic LGBTQIA+ Identity and Inclusion in the LGBTQIA+ Community | Autism in Adulthood
- Sexual Minority Identities in Autistic Adults: Diversity and Associations with Mental Health Symptoms and Subjective Quality of Life | Autism in Adulthood
- Quantitative Analysis of Narrative Discourse by Autistic Adults of Underrepresented Genders | Autism in Adulthood
- The Gender-Diversity and Autism Questionnaire: A Community-Developed Clinical, Research, and Self-Advocacy Tool for Autistic Transgender and Gender-Diverse Young Adults | Autism in Adulthood
- “I Don’t Feel Like a Gender, I Feel Like Myself”: Autistic Individuals Raised as Girls Exploring Gender Identity
- Due both to their ability to denaturalize social norms and to their neurological differences, autistic individuals can offer novel insights into gender as a social process.
- Examining gender from an autistic perspective highlights some elements as socially constructed that may otherwise seem natural and supports an understanding of gender as fluid and multidimensional.
- Neurodivergent people are more likely than the general population to be gender non-conforming.
- LGBTQI+ people with an Autistic diagnosis have two separate rainbows — and two separate coming out stories.
- People who do not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth are three to six times as likely to be autistic as cisgender people are.
- Autistic people are more likely than neurotypical people to be gender diverse, several studies show, and gender-diverse people are more likely to have autism than are cisgender people.
- Members of the neurodiversity movement adopt a position of diversity that encompasses a kaleidoscope of identities that intersects with the LGBTQIA+ kaleidoscope by recognising neurodivergent traits as natural variations of cognition, motivations, and patterns of behaviour within the human species.
- “Queer,” in any case, does not designate a class of already objectified pathologies or perversions; rather, it describes a horizon of possibility whose precise extent and heterogeneous scope cannot in principle be delimited in advance.
- In many ways, the impulse to repress transgender people from expressing their true identity is rooted in the same impulse that makes people want to stop #ActuallyAutistic people from flapping their hands.b
- Autistic and queer folks share some dark history—and some bad actors.
- Learning about the shared DNA of gay conversion therapy and ABA reaffirmed what Martin Luther King wrote in 1963 “We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny.”
- Plenty of autistic people are LGBTQ and experience a double portion of discrimination. The desire to eliminate the traits that make autistic people unique is rooted in the same impulse to suppress people from affirming their gender identity or sexuality.
- ABA and its conversion therapy kin are with us still, all too alive and well.
- Protecting queer kids protects also neurodivergent kids—and vice versa. The fight is for inclusion and acceptance—for all operating systems, for all of our different ways of being human.
- Queer and neurodivergent liberation are entwined.
- I don’t need a cure for me.
- Conversion therapy is wrong. Conversion therapy does not work.
- Autistic perceptions of gender identity are far more diverse, and put interests, rather than gender identity, at the core of autistic people’s identity perception.
- Autistic people often state repeatedly in their accounts how confusing and emotionally taxing ‘doing gender’ is for them, explaining why they may explicitly reject being confined to traditional and binary gender norms.
- Children on the autism spectrum are more than seven times more likely to show signs of gender variance.
- Being both autistic and gender non-conforming, some children face a double-challenge in responding to society’s biases.
- People who feel significant distress because their gender identity differs from their birth sex have higher-than-expected rates of autism.
- People with autism appear to have higher rates of gender dysphoria than the general population.
- Rates of autism and autism traits appear to be higher in those identifying as genderqueer.
- Gender norms should not be imposed on people with autism to make the rest of the world more comfortable.
- Knowing how to navigate in a world that is not really friendly with people who are trans can be tricky when you are missing social cues.
- We can see that a lot of the social rules around gender are bullshit basically.
- Learning that they are autistic can show people that they are not wrong for living outside prescribed social rules and norms, including ones for gender and sexuality. Once they accept that they are autistic, they realize that a lot of social norms are constrictive and should be questioned
- Masked Autism and being a closeted gender minority often go hand in hand, and the experiences share a lot of features.
- When your belief system teaches that disability and gender variance are embarrassing and disgusting, it’s hard to look at your child and recognize those traits.
- We have to make society over again from the ground up, our own little neuro-queer microsocieties. Because no one else will think to include us.
- When a person’s gender is doubted because they are autistic, this paves the way for removing autistic people’s agency in all kinds of other ways.
- Trans autistic people often lack access to services and supports that understand and respect all aspects of their identity.
- Too frequently, autistic people are denied basic rights to make decisions about our own bodies and health care, including when it comes to expressing our gender identity.
- Part of presuming my competence includes presuming I know my own gender.
- Our dual identities are not competing; they are complementary.
Now I am home I can feel wind on my skin Feel true love from within battle scars Now I'm reborn Can occupy space in my body Surgery gave me freedom How long can you put up With doctors making decisions about your life My body, my choices I am so fed up Of asking for approval and being doubted Seen as abnormal Now I am home I can feel wind on my skin Feel true love from within battle scars Now I'm reborn Can occupy space in my body Surgery gave me freedom
No more waking up at 3 o' clock Panic mode, trying to accept this body is yours Seeing in the window of a crowded street 'I'm still not as flat as the boy next to me' Your binder in the closet, it gave you too much pain But mentally this is suffocating too in a way There's no one here, no one there, No one that looks like you, Your life is the joke in a hollywood cartoon Home I've been searching for it Like a snail, lost without it Home I've been searching for it Now I have found my Home I can feel wind on my skin Feel true love from within battle scars Now I'm reborn Can occupy space in my body Surgery gave me freedom --Reborn by Eyemèr